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It is easy to forgive the stranger who profusely apologised right after bumping you with a shopping cart in the store. Or the person who spilled his drink on the floor right next to you, almost soaking your trousers and leaving a ghastly stain… certainly way easier than forgiving you partner for his/her “sins”… no matter how profuse the apology might be…

A Value can be defined as something of importance. It is the quality or the worth of a thing. So what does this mean for families of today? Family Values would then be defined as what is valuable in our families. Values can also vary from characteristics such as good manners to traditions and even household duties or chores

I see clients – on a daily basis – who are so stuck in their patterns of interaction and communication, so absolutely lost and who see no way out…and my answer is: what you've been trying up to now, has not been working. So try something else… change has to start somewhere… YOU are the only one that you can change and control and can influence completely… so why not TRY and start with YOU… that would, at the very least, be a start…

Liefde is alles behalwe `n blote gevoel. Liefde is `n keuse, dit is `n besluit wat jy elke dag opnuut moet neem, veral wanneer dit swaar gaan! Liefde is` n werkwoord! Anders as verliefdheid, is liefde nie `n “toestand” waaraan ons uitgelewer is nie. Wanneer ons verlief is, is die wêreld `n pragtige plek, daardie persoon is die “beste ding wat ooit met ons kon gebeur”, hy het geen foute nie en sal ook nooit hê nie.

It’s true that money can’t buy love, but I am sure that it wouldn't come as a big surprise to learn that financial differences in relationships are one of the major role players when it comes to unhappiness or arguments between couples.

When you're angry, hurt or frustrated, the immediate natural instinctive reaction is to self-defend or launch a brutal attack of your own. But if you can manage to override this natural; self-destructive urge to do so, and focus on communicating your feelings, you have already gained a lot. 

Now for the interesting question regarding bullying: why is it that a certain behavior, such as bullying, will happen over and over again and is hard to quit even though the consequences are by far more negative than positive? Even the bully knows this and often regrets his or her behavior in retrospect. 

The word bullying seems to fit better with a playground incident between school children than it would in a conflict situation between two adults who perceive themselves to be in a loving relationship. 
However, if we understand what it means to bully, maybe we can make more sense of certain relationship patterns which often become destructive for the individuals involved and their relationship. 

Mojo is nie net my hond nie, Mojo is ook my assistent terapeut. Ek sien hoe die lig weer in kinders se ogies terugkom wanneer hulle hom sien, rond jaag en vashou. Ek is gelukkig dat Mojo ‘n natuurlike goeie terapiehondjie is. Hy geniet die kinders net so baie soos wat hulle hom geniet. Ek, die kind en Mojo vorm ‘n spannetjie: ‘n spannetjie wat lag, wat leer en wat ontwikkel.

Ouers kom sien my gereeld met die kommer dat hulle kinders afgeknou word. Afknouery is ongelukkig ‘n groot probleem in ons samelewewing en dit word net erger. Die afknouery vind gewoonlik by die kind se skool plaas wat dit soms moeilik maak om aan te spreek. Dit is baie moeilik vir die ouers en ook vir die kinders om te hanteer. Hulle voel gewoonlik hulpeloos en magteloos om die afknouery te stop en talle ouers weet nie watter kant toe om te gaan nie. Met hierdie artikel wil ek graag vir ouers ‘n paar riglyne gee wat gevolg kan word ten einde die situasie beter te kan hanteer.

Once the relationship is “stuck“ in the chronic anger cycle partners dig their heels in the ground and struggle to listen and understand each other because each partner is consumed with his or her own pain and discomfort due to experiencing a lack of understanding and personal value in the relationship. It is difficult to support others when you experience living life in “crisis mode.“