Marriage Counselling is by no means a magic wand that will make all your relationship problems disappear.

As with any self-help book, inspirational DVD or interesting and useful advice, marriage counselling is only as effective as you choose to make it. You can have a whole collection of books in your library on how to better your understanding of one another, but if you don’t actually make the time to read the books and try to apply the knowledge actively in your life – it cannot and will not be of any use to you.

Therefore, when you decide to come for marriage counselling, make very sure of your motives. Marriage counselling will help you understand yourself better, help you get to know your partner better. You will learn new and interesting ways in which to communicate and love each other, but if you don’t choose to apply this knowledge, you are wasting your time and money. If you however, are open minded, want to save your marriage, are willing to learn, to adapt and to change (not who you are, but how you are), marriage counselling can and will benefit you immensely!

Important questions to ask yourself
Is your marriage in trouble?
Are you struggling to recognise the person you fell in love with in your partner?
Are you constantly fighting and arguing?
Does it feel like you have absolutely nothing in common any more?
Have you lost each other along the way?
Is healthy and effective communication near impossible between the two of you?
How important is your relationship to you?

If you are willing to work for it, anything is possible.

No matter what the reasons are/were for the infidelity, the results are always pretty similar:
loss of trust
lies and cover ups
disruption in communication
anxiety and stress
emotional break downs
obsessive behaviour
Both the person who’s trust was broken as well as the one who broke the trust will have some work to do if the relationship is going to work.

It’s going to be tough, but it is possible to trust again!

I often refer to communication, or the lack thereof, as the root of all evil!
Is your partner just not hearing what you’re saying?
Do simple conversations end up in a battlefield because of misunderstandings or miscommunication?
Do simple request or statement from one, unleash a tyranny of anger and resentment, feelings of rejection in another?
If you can relate…

You you say one thing… but your partner hears something totally different…

We will help your through these difficult situations.

Vita Nova offers in-person as well as online sessions!
Our Pretoria branch is located at 615 Vampire Street in Elardus Park. Our hourly rates are available on the booking system and varies, based on the counsellor and the service being offered.