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Everyone at many different points in their lives, will either have to ask forgiveness or be in a position where they have to decide whether or not to forgive. If you think back through the week that has passed; chances are that you found yourself on either sides of the coin on several different occasions. And because we understand all too well what it's like to be in need of forgiveness, it could be assumed that forgiving someone else should come quite easily…right?

Often, though, we find that parents seem to be very loving and attentive caregivers, but still have a child who acts out at school; in this case the behavior could be an indication of something else being wrong; be it trauma or something that upsets or frustrates the child – children often don’t have the same verbal capability in expressing emotions the we as adults are supposed to have, so they will act it out, rather than verbally tell you that something is wrong

Die vrouens voel mans het net seks op die brein, maak nie saak of hulle n ontsaglike argument gehad het vroeer die dag nie, vanaand sal manlief sy “luck probeer”. Mans voel weer hulle loop op eiers en moet heeltyd die “water toets” – is dit nou okay vanaand of nie. En omdat hulle gehoor het dat vrouens nie soos n ligskakelaar net aan skakel nie, probeer hulle sommer al die onderwerp vroegoggend aanspreek om sodoende hopenlik teen vanaand die skakelaar al so semi aan te hê

Besef dat n gesonde en bevredigende verhouding, twee gelukkige en tevrede individue vereis, so kyk daagliks uit vir kleindingetjies wat jy kan doen om vir jou maat te wys sy/hy is vir jou belangrik.

In the field of linguistics a single language might have five different dialects and likewise the love language of physical touch can be expressed in a variety of ways. The need to feel loved is a primary human emotional need; hence if you give your spouse their primary love language in heavy doses, the other four can just be sprinkled in.

Kinders wat se emosionele emmer vol is, het minder probleme met hulle emosionele ontwikkeling. Hulle leer dat hulle ouers vir hulle onvoorwaardelik lief is en ervaar hulle wereld as veilig. Wanneer 'n kind sy wereld as veilig ervaar, het hy/sy die selfvertroue om die wereld te leer ken en om te ontwikkel in verantwoordelike volwassenes. 

Ons wil dit nie altyd erken nie, maar al ons verhoudings is egter behoefte gedrewe. Ons sal nie met iemand in 'n verhouding tree, hetsy romanties, vriendskaplik of professioneel as ons behoeftes nie daardeur aangespreek word nie. Alle mense het fisiese, kognitiewe, emosionele, sosiale en geestelike behoeftes. Wat ons presies nodig het sal egter van mens tot mens verskil.

As a play therapist I often ask myself the question “What can I give each child that I see?” and “What do they really need to be happy?” When we think about what we need to be happy and to keep our emotional buckets full, I'm sure that our answers will be different. It is therefore safe to say that children also need different things to be happy. We must always remember that our children are not little replicas of us, but unique little individuals. In this article I will talk about what children generally need to be happy and how to apply it to your children.

Loss is never easy. We can't always predict or control it. We need to be aware of our own reactions to loss. Children learn from us and look up to us. If the adults in their life are stuck in the grieving process they will also be stuck.

You fall in love with the perfect person; he is everything you want from a life partner. Sure he has a couple of kids, but that’s no big deal…right?

Wrong.

Raising step-children is not an easy task. So many aspects complicate the situation. Take roles for example; his kids already have a mother…so where do you fit in? Are you a friend, a parent, an outsider…?

Expectations also play a huge role here: In your perfect world, you and your partner will function as a unit, with regards to disciplining, parenting, laying down the law…

Here are a few questions regarding raising step-children ….