Remember, parents are basically always going to be parental. This means that when a parent in some way gets involved in his or her adult child’s personal problems, the parental instincts will kick in. Years of powerful emotional connection simply cannot make way for clear and objective analysis, support and feedback. And when we have a third person or more involved (such as a spouse or grandchild), good intentions can lead to relational conflict no one hoped for.
Die eerste maand van die jaar is al amper verby. Jy kan jou kalender amper al na Februarie omswaai. Dalk het jy nuwejaars voornemens vir jouself gemaak en het jy vol hoop beloftes gemaak dat 2016 die jaar sal wees waarin jy jou drome vervul, gaan reis, kookklasse neem, meer tyd aan jouself bestee, aan jou verhoudings gaan werk of ‘n nuwe stokperdjie beoefen. Dalk het jy die jaar ingestap met geen vooropgestelde idees of voornemens nie. Waar jy ookal op die kontinuum lê, is ek seker jy het hoop dat die jaar wat voorlê vol opwinding, sukses, goeie gesondheid, liefde en vrede sal wees, maar hoeveel beheer het jy nou eintlik oor wat die jaar vir jou inhou?
Getting the best out of 2016
Happiness is a state of mind. It is created by one’s own mental well- being. Hundreds of self-help books exist that point to how this can be achieved. However, the reader during this exploration does not meet the opportunity to share their thoughts. Thus not obtaining much needed feedback on their thinking processes that would deepen their understanding.
“In the mirror I see a creature that I must unwillingly share my mind and heart with. I feel alone in a world filled with people, and yet it all seems silent and meaningless. Some days I feel like I can conquer the world, some days I can’t even find the courage to get up and get dressed. I feel like I’m in a constant state of confusion, a constant rollercoaster ride that never ends. The people close to me feel very far away…they don’t understand. Yet I don’t want them to. I don’t want others to feel the way that I do, to live with the monster that I have become. Will I ever get better? Is there any hope in a world that judges you as weak and crazy, a world that seems cold and dark… I just don’t know. Sometimes I just want to be alone, hiding from the world, yet the loneliness can be unbearable.”
Having worked in the field of mental health as a professional counsellor for the last 10 years I have had to deal with the concept of “addiction” more often than not. The last 4 years I have also worked on a daily basis at an inpatient alcohol and drug rehabilitation clinic. What I came to understand was that some of the core behaviours of an addiction problem really seem to be universal to almost all of the behaviours we might categorize under the word addiction. Whether we are talking about obsessive and compulsive behaviours such as eating disorders, compulsive gambling, alcohol and drug abuse/dependency, sexual compulsivity, or any other phenomenon where the word “addiction” comes to mind, we see a certain number of behaviour and thought patterns which look almost exactly the same in each of the abovementioned behaviours.
A psychological assessment of a young child’s readiness takes into consideration as many factors as possible that could impact on the child’s formative years and initial experiences of school. It is followed by a detailed background record, pre-school reports, parent interviews, and other collateral evidence which might assist the psychologist to get a full profile of the child.
We as parents are obligated to know that children’s developmental needs are different for each child and that children mature differently. Each child is an individual with specific talents and in some cases deficits. Your children are mostly writing exams at this time of the year. The report will be a good indicator of where support and guidance is needed. But we also need to remember that academia is but one part of the child’s growing up. Blaming the school for the child not progressing would be too simplistic, as we know, that school is but one factor that determines academic success.
Hierdie artikel is deel van ‘n reeks artikels wat fokus op die verskillende eetversteurings waaraan individue ly. Die eerste artikel genaamd ‘7 miete en feite: Wanneer ‘n eetversteuring jou insluk...’ was ‘n inleiding tot eetversteurings en het verskillende kwessies soos mietes en feite aangespreek. Die tweede artikel het gefokus op twee unieke eetversteuring wat nie alombekend is nie, maar wat individue wel aan ly: Pica eetversteuring en herkou eetversteuring.
Hierdie artikel sal Anorexia Nervosa en vermydende/beperkte voedselinname eetversteuring beskryf.
Die term PICA kom van die Latynse woord ‘magpie’ af. Magpie is ‘n Europese voël (amper soos ‘n kraai), wat bekend is vir sy onoordeelkundige eetlus van eienaardige voorwerpe, die voël eet omtrent enigeiets. Vandag word die term Pica gebruik om individue met `n kompulsiewe behoefte om te eet, te kou, of te lek, aan nie-voedselitems soos byvoorbeeld grond, kryt of verf, ens te beskryf en te diagnoseer.
A Parent’s most valuable gift to their children
Attachment forms during the first couple of years of a child’s life. A parent or caregiver’s emotional availability for the child from the day of birth is extremely important. Attachment forms when a caregiver is sensitive to needs of the child and reacts to these needs appropriately. The first four years of a toddlers life is viewed as the fundamental time when attachment forms. The manner in how the parent or caregiver communicates with the child on both a verbal and non-verbal manner has a significant impact on how the child will view the world. The type of attachment that your child will develop, will affect the attachment (whether secure of insecure) your child will have, not only with you, but also with their peers and others they will meet on their journey in this world. Parents or caregivers are the main players in a child’s life and will often determine whether a child develops a secure or an insecure attachment.