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What is attachment?

By |2019-05-02T19:13:22+02:00Aug 12th, 2015|

Attachment forms during the first couple of years of a child’s life. A parent or caregiver’s emotional availability for the child from the day of birth is extremely important. Attachment forms when a caregiver is sensitive to needs of the child and reacts to these needs appropriately. The first four years of a toddlers life is viewed as the fundamental time when attachment forms. The manner in how the parent or caregiver communicates with the child on both a verbal and non-verbal manner has a significant impact on how the child will view the world. The type of attachment that your child will develop, will affect the attachment (whether secure of insecure) your child will have, not only with you, but also with their peers and others they will meet on their journey in this world. Parents or caregivers are the main players in a child’s life and will often determine whether a child develops a secure or an insecure attachment.

Post-Partum Depression (Part 1)

By |2019-05-02T19:14:37+02:00Aug 12th, 2015|

Most people expect the arrival of a new baby as a happy event, a blessing and in most cases that is true. But as a new mom having a baby comes with some fears and this can cause some anxiety that moms either deny or they don’t talk about. Moms might go through a short period of anxiety and tearfulness which is known as “the baby blues”. These feelings usually go away within about two weeks. If however moms develop a more intense and deeper depression, this is known as post-partum depression.  

7 mites en feite: Wanneer ‘n eetversteuring jou insluk…

By |2019-07-07T13:06:46+02:00Jun 15th, 2015|

Eet is belangrik, voedsel hou ons tog aan die lewe. Maar wanneer ‘n individu ‘n versteuring in hulle eetgewoontes ontwikkel kan dit so 'n groot impak hê dat die res van hul funksionering negatief beinvloed sal word. Vir 'n individu wat met 'n eetversteuring worstel, is dit dikwels 'n baie moeilike, eensame pad na herstel.

Positive behavior: The difference between rewarding and bribing your child

By |2019-05-02T19:15:03+02:00May 24th, 2015|

I honestly think using rewards to change or enhance behaviors in children is an excellent and positive tool.  We often fall into the habit of focusing only on the misbehavior of our children, and then punishing them for that; either by taking away privileges, spanking, yelling, threatening and the problem here is that this negative focus on the child, very seldom has a long term effect in changing the behavior. 

Sibling Rivalry by Anri van den Berg

By |2019-05-02T19:15:24+02:00May 21st, 2015|

Between 18 months and 2 years old, for example, a child has a deep seated need to do things for him or herself, and if an older brother or sister, who wants to be a good helper and who wants to do everything for the younger one then comes and interferes, that could cause a lot of frustration-on both sides.
And so we can go through all the different stages of life and have a number of situations that could cause rivalry.

Wat moet ek oor my kleuter weet? – Artikel 2

By |2019-05-02T19:20:35+02:00May 19th, 2015|

‘n Kleuter se spel begin baie selfgesentreerd en word later meer sosiaal soos hulle met ander kinders in interaksie tree. Dit is dus nie vreemd as jou kleuter op sy eie kan speel en met homself praat nie. 

Daar is ‘n baie spesifieke rede waarom daar na die kleuter jare as die “terrible two’s and three’s” verwys word.  Wanneer ek aan ‘n kleuter dink, kom twee stellings sterk na vore: “Nee” en “ek wil self”.  Gedurende hierdie fase begin jou kind sy taalvaardighede, geheue en verbeelding te ontwikkel

Hoe vorm gehegtheid / ‘attachment’ ? – ‘n ouer se beste geskenk aan hul kind…

By |2019-05-02T19:22:04+02:00May 12th, 2015|

Gehegtheid is die band tussen ‘n baba en sy versorger. ‘n Gesonde, vaste gehegtheid sal die grootste invloed op ‘n kind se emosionele ontwikkeling as baba, kind, tiener en later as volwassene hê. Die ervarings van vroeë gehegtheid het lewenslank 'n uitwerking op ‘n kind se emosionele ontwikkeling. ‘n Gesonde, vaste gehegtheid is noodsaaklik vir ‘n individu, om ‘n funksionele lewe te lei. 

What is a Parenting plan and how does it work?

By |2019-06-19T22:37:44+02:00May 3rd, 2015|

A parenting plan is a legally constituted document provided for in the Children's Act 2005 of South Africa. It covers various aspects related to the care and contact of minor children born out of a marriage or any other relationship. The plan should always be in the best interest to the child/children. The parenting plan contains the negotiated decisions of both parents regarding the upbringing of their children.

Why is sleep important for children

By |2019-05-02T19:34:19+02:00Apr 29th, 2015|

Empowering parents with knowledge regarding the importance of sleep and why a good night’s sleep is not only important for children, but for parents as well. 

Sleep is an essential part of your day. Sleep is as important to the body as food. We need to eat and we need to sleep.  We need sleep in order to be healthy and to go on living our daily lives. Children need more sleep than adults.

Jaag jou eie drome

By |2019-05-02T19:37:08+02:00Apr 28th, 2015|

“Moenie jou energie mors deur ‘n leun te lewe nie. Gebruik daardie energie om te kan verander wat jy kan en aanvaar die dinge wat jy nie kan verander nie. Wees wie jy gemaak is om te wees – want daardie persoon is uniek en wonderlik.”

Raising children through a divorce or separation

By |2019-05-02T19:43:19+02:00Apr 27th, 2015|

There is no easy way to deal with this – it’s emotional and it’s scary even for you as the adult. Most important thing to definitely communicate to the children involved is that nothing they could ever have done, could have caused the parents to make this decision. Children are extremely self-centered; their whole little universe revolves around them and they perceive everything that happens to be as a direct result of something that they've done or haven’t done.

Social Needs – Our need for interaction and contact with friends and family (Part one)

By |2019-06-01T13:14:37+02:00Apr 26th, 2015|

I would now like you to take a moment to think about your friends. What does the word friendship mean to you? How many friends do you have? Are they single or in relationships? Are you currently not spending time with friends, or are you still going out regularly? Do you go out as a couple or alone? You should also ask yourself whether your current friendships are life giving or life taking to your romantic relationship. If it’s not life giving you are going to have to change it. Make sure that you and your partner talk about your social needs.

Social Needs – our need for interaction and contact with friends and family (Part two)

By |2019-06-01T13:05:18+02:00Apr 26th, 2015|

Usually we move out of our families in the search for our own lives. Some people want to start their own families, while others want different things from life. But let’s assume that we all want to start our own families…how do we do that when we had a traumatic childhood. The answer, while complex, is simple – change the patterns. As children we don't have control over our lives, but as adults we do. Make different choices and don’t repeat the same mistakes. But before you can do that you need to be aware of the unrealistic or irrational expectations that you have. Awareness is the first step to change.

The importance of positive thinking in a relationship

By |2019-05-02T19:18:51+02:00Apr 26th, 2015|

I don't believe that the power of positive thoughts has the ability to trump all other factors in play. I don't for one moment believe that I can pass an exam, on the power of positive thinking alone for example – maybe I just don't get it. In my opinion; that’s pure stupidity…or wishful thinking at the very least.  I do however believe; with all my heart; that our thoughts very definitely can and do influence our emotions and our experiences; no doubt about that!

Wat is Seisoenale Depressie?

By |2019-05-02T19:19:00+02:00Apr 12th, 2015|

Seisoenale depressie is 'n algemene gemoedstoestand waarmee baie mense sukkel. Die toestand word veral in die winter maande ervaar. Mense met seisoenale depressie vind dit moeilk om te funksioneer op die vlak waaraan hulle gewoond is. 

Emotional Child Assessment: A valuable tool in understanding your children

By |2019-05-02T19:20:12+02:00Mar 24th, 2015|

The goal of an emotional child assessment is to get to know the child's view of his or her world, through play. The goal is not to analyse or to label your child but to create a holistic view of the child’s thoughts and feelings. Only when we understand the child's world, can we create the map to effective helping.

Healthy vs Unhealthy Sexuality

By |2015-03-18T19:18:00+02:00Mar 18th, 2015|

Here is the big problem: anything that can make us feel good or that gives us an intense feeling or “high” can become addictive or compulsive. This means that in a rather short period of time, we will need more or a more exaggerated dose to have the same feeling. After more than 5 years working in the field of substance abuse and addiction ….

Can I spoil my child with love?

By |2019-05-02T19:20:34+02:00Mar 6th, 2015|

Although your child will have their own unique love language they need a little bit of all the five languages. Hold and kiss your child, tell them that you love them and that you are proud of them, spend time playing and being with them, help them with tasks and top it off with a nice little gift.

Tips for creating a successful marriage

By |2019-05-02T19:20:52+02:00Mar 3rd, 2015|

Being married and a mom of two, I have first-hand experience in how difficult it is to make time for you and your partner to just connect. One of the big challenges couples have is time. My advice to couples is to really try and get into the habit of having, at the very least, two hours a week for just the two of you – without the kids! And make sure that the time you spent together is worth it! That brings me to the next tip;

Invloed van maats op my kind

By |2019-05-02T19:21:09+02:00Feb 28th, 2015|

Die grootste gedeelte van sosialisering geskied gewoonlik by jou kind se skool waar hy met ander kinders in kontak tree. Met hierdie artikel wil ek graag praat oor jou kind se sosiale ontwikkeling en die belangrikheid van maats in jou kind se lewe.

The Value in Original Play

By |2019-05-02T19:21:28+02:00Feb 21st, 2015|

We are so busy, we are so focused and driven to provide for our children’s future that we forget that our biggest and easiest contribution to our kids is the love we give, right here and right now… 
And no; you are not too old for this; Original Play has no age guidelines – everyone can “Play”, regardless of your age. In Original Play, there are no human-imposed categories; such as male or female, big or small, young or old.

Help! I think my child is being abused!

By |2019-05-02T19:23:01+02:00Feb 16th, 2015|

A forensic investigation and assessment will assist your child to make a more comprehensive disclosure in a way that is safe for your child but that will also hold up to scrutiny if this information has to go to court. This professional will also be able to advise you about the next steps and procedures. It is a very difficult road but your child can get through this with your help emotional support and commitment to their well-being. 
At Vita Nova we have the expertise and the right services to guide you through it all.

Why Premarital Counselling and what is discussed

By |2019-05-02T19:23:19+02:00Feb 5th, 2015|

During premarital counselling; we teach you a very practically applicable tool set or skill set, that you can use to navigate your relationship to the best of your ability.

So pre-marital counselling will help you discuss the things that could be issues in your relationship at one point or another – no such thing as the perfect relationship- and get you guys on the same page from the start.

Most of the couples we see; say that problems started slowly at around 2 years after marriage, and just increased as time went by. A big problem is our expectations of our partners and our marriage/relationship. We have this beautiful, perfect picture in our minds of what married life is going to be like, what our partners are going to be like, and as married life continues, reality starts intruding into this fantasy world and disappointment, confusion, doubt; all are plenty full.

Wat is die “ROL” van oupas en oumas in ‘n kind se lewe – kan ons die rol definieer?

By |2019-05-02T19:23:44+02:00Jan 22nd, 2015|

Elke familie bestaan uit n sisteem waar gedragsgewoontes en verhoudingspatrone al vir jare en generasies op n sekere manier funksioneer. Wat die een generasie leer word aan die volgende generasie oorgedra. Dit is dus baie moeilik om n baie spesifieke en beperkte rol vir oupas en oumas te definieer. Party families is emosioneel baie geheg aan mekaar en daar is patrone waar nabyheid en daaglikse hulp aan die orde van die dag is. Ander families of grootfamilies verkies weer meer afstand en fokus veral om elkeen spasie te gee om hom of haarself uit te leef. Dan kom die individuele faktore ook nog by waar elke familielid sy of haar persoonlikheid en styl van verhoudings handhaaf. 

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